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I came across your site after hearing you on Pat Flynn’s podcast a couple months ago. I have to say, I just love your approach to business and the internet!! Your latest answers to his PLR questions are terrific, and definitely helped me to see how they could be used in different ways.

I love the topic of marriage, too! My husband is an officer in the Army, and we have 2 kids ages 2 and under, and we’ve decided to get something going online this year to increase our cash flow and career options.

This means we have less “free time” to chat and hang out. But we have been going out two or three times a month for dates so that we can hang out and have fun. We also make an effort to NOT WORK at least one night a week. We’re in “building mode” right now, so hopefully this kind of routine won’t last forever. But honestly, it’s so much fun working towards a goal with your spouse.

(Oh–I’ve made a special effort to reapply make up before he gets home (ha! ha!) and take my hair out of a ponytail:)

Thanks again, Nicole! I really enjoy your philosophy and website!

Amy

We came through the raising kids part and now that is over we were in danger of forgetting who we were with. Fortunately we both recognized that without each other what we were doing online wasn’t worth it – I could start another business tomorrow, but I would never find anyone as supportive as my partner ever, and I keep that thought uppermost in my mind all of the time.

Great series!

My hubby and I got engaged 5 days after we met and we’ve been married for 30 years. Like all marriages, we’ve had our rough spots but we’ve both been determined to get through them. We have two lovely children, our 28 year old son has some special needs and still lives at home. Our beautiful daughter has spread her wings but rings often and comes home as much as she can. To me, my family has always come first. If I’m working (at home) and someone wants me to come watch a movie on TV, the laptop gets shut, even if I’m in the middle of something. Family is more important. I’m only completely content when the four of us are together.

Shelley – your mother’s comment about you being the only person you can change is oh so true. I’ve been trying and failing for 30 years with hubby so will have to try something different.

We’ve settled into a routine now and I’d love to be be able to change parts of it. He works hard and falls asleep in front of TV, every night. That annoys me, especially if it’s something like a documentary that he wanted to watch when I would have preferred CSI or something ‘light and mindless’. I’ve tried waking him but now just let him sleep. I don’t enjoy that he prefers working for our community to the exclusion of working to finish the house we built and have been living in for 15 years. That’s something that I’m working on – trying to schedule an ‘appointment’ to paint our bedroom so the carpet we bought when we were building can go down.

However when it comes to the important things, he’s right there, front and center. I have had some major health issues over the past two plus weeks and he’s either been waiting at the doctor’s for me for moral support, or he’s come home to take me in. He stopped working (he’s self employed) when I was admitted to hospital last week, to be with me. I don’t trust myself to drive right now as I’m too weak so my son has become my chauffeur. Even today, hubby appeared as I came out of the podiatrist’s office, because he knew I was there and that I am still so unwell.

We laugh until we cry over the silliest things. That is so important.

I must say I’m looking forward to the next 30 years together and can’t wait for him to retire so we can be together all the time. And maybe by then, we’ll have time to put down that carpet.

Kathy

I’ll admit that we’ve had some rough patches in our marriage, especially early on. And I’ll never forget some advice my mom gave me during our second year of marriage. I didn’t want to hear it at the time, but she said, “Shelley, remember that the only person you can change is yourself.”

Ouch. I was defensive at first demanding that HE was the person that needed to change. However, after re-evaluating myself, I realized that my responses weren’t helpful…the nagging, bossiness and critical comments. I was convicted. And as I began to change, I began to see my husband change as well. It was amazing!

Therefore, I’ve taken that lesson through the last 12 years of my marriage and realize that when we hit tough times, it’s time for some soul searching and prayer to ask God if there are any areas I need to change. And then I also pray for God to begin to change my husband as well. I believe in the power of prayer and have witnessed what I would call “miracles” in our marriage as I have prayed and asked for God’s help.

And finally…you know the saying, “the grass is always greener on the other side?” Well, my husband says, “The grass is greenest where you water it the most.”

And I believe that is true with our marriages too 🙂