Comments on: Fear is Just an Unruly Child. Tell it to Simmer Down So You Can Grow Your Business!

By: Cynthia Beckles

Cynthia Beckles — Sat, 11 Sep 2021 23:33:25 +0000

I love your analogy and perspective. I have always thought of fear as a thief, but now I will think of it as a screaming child. You are so right, we cannot give fear control. It is so important to stay focused. You may keep tending to the screaming child, and be surprised how much time is wasted. My screaming child is is a Facebook Live. I will be doing my first one this month. Time to give the screaming child some relief. We all need to move forward and not keep looking in the rear view mirror. Thank you for a thought-provoking post.

By: Teresa Miller

Teresa Miller — Sat, 11 Sep 2021 03:18:41 +0000

Nicole, you always have a unique perspective and I love that. And what an interesting take on fear you have!

The thing is that fear has a place and a purpose. But even though you love that unruly child and you know his voice matters, it doesn’t mean you let him run roughshod over you.

When he complains, you make sure there isn’t some real problem to address, and then you just let him wear himself out with his shenanigans, while you take care of the .

By: Kelly Crompton

Kelly Crompton — Sat, 11 Sep 2021 02:21:50 +0000

Living with anxiety, fear is its constant sidekick. It can easily just become part of your identity – it had for me for a long time. In fact, it might have been the overwhelming part of my identity. I would avoid many things, because I could make up quite a story to fill in all the unknowns in new situations. But I also missed out on some potentially terrific things and even better people because I allowed that inner tantrum to win.

Nowadays anxiety and fear are still most certainly a big part of my life, but I have learned to embrace that part of myself in a positive way. I am open about the struggle, and I make myself just keep moving ahead toward whatever it is want to do, despite the voice inside my head that for some reason is freaking out about the whole thing.

Usually it’s over seemingly small stuff (at least for most people), and eventually it becomes a small thing for myself as well.

Occasionally it’s a big thing – or perhaps a better word is it’s an important thing. A thing that is meaningful to me, and the fearful child inside is putting up a heck of fight trying to convince me that I just might die if I do this thing – especially if I fail. Man is it hard to be the grown up in that situation and try to soothe that child’s fear ask it to please just trust me. We’ll make it, and even if we fail spectacularly we won’t actually die.

Thank you so much for your analogy, and for your reminder that WE are in the driver’s seat, and we can choose to move past that fear.

Those are the times I remind myself to just take small steps. Super baby steps if needed, but steps nonetheless.

By: Amanda Hahn

Amanda Hahn — Sat, 11 Sep 2021 02:11:45 +0000

Nicole – Thank you for sharing and it provided me some powerful insights. I find that I am fearful that I will succeed and then what? Will they find me out, that I am imposter and I don’t know what I am talking about? I am starting to see that imposter syndrome and I am calling it by name which will allow me to take the wheel and take control of my own journey to building a prosperous business that fiercely serves my clients in helping them find the life they are seeking to create.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 21:14:42 +0000

Wow. I so adore all of these comments. THANK YOU all. Reading and re-reading and smiling the biggest smiles! I’m so glad this resonated with you as much as it did me.

Go kick ass in all the awesomest of ways.

<3 Nik

By: Jennifer Burke

Jennifer Burke — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 20:46:26 +0000

Nicole this is so on target as an analogy!
Of course we aren’t handing the car keys to a kid, no matter how much or how loud they whine and kick our seats. Because we know better and are taking care of them. So we need to take care of ourselves and keep going – we nod to the unruly kid/fear, recognize them BUT keep driving. It’s not truly the end of the world. Stop giving fear so much power.
I know you have much experience with fear … and also with getting up and moving on. Thank you for sharing and inspiring. Time to move past the whining, kicking toddler tantrums of fear of making offers, fear of rejection, fear of no clients and fear of failing my clients, and all those other business fears that kick away in our backseats.

By: Phoenix Grace

Phoenix Grace — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 03:46:32 +0000

Hello Nicole!
I am NOT going to let that backseat driver take control of my vehicle. Not even if she is tired, or hungry, or feeling ignored. I have CHOICES. I have heard that FEAR can be seen as Forget Everything and Run or Face Everything and Rise, I choose to rise (and help lift others up on the way). I have given into fear in the past. I have been immobilized; not able to move forward in life. Fear has pushed me out of the driver seat. Now, I am going to listen to what she has to teach me and thank her for the lesson but tell her she is free to go. I now have faith and trust. Thank you so much for the blog post! I look forward to reading more.

By: Karen Sammer

Karen Sammer — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 02:47:49 +0000

I love the comparison to the whiny, petulant child. All I kept thinking was “don’t make me stop this car and swat you with my flip flop”. You can guess how I grew up. Seriously, I think when we treat our fear like that, we can acknowledge it and show ourselves compassion then go forth and be awesome. Acknowledging that part of us that wants to keep us safe while reassuring it that we are indeed safe, allows us to ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. Not sure who gets the credit for that line but it isn’t me. Great post and thanks for the perspective.

By: Fran Watson

Fran Watson — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 01:45:15 +0000

I’m a little late to the party, just watching the replay tonight, but want to share my response to your great post. Fear so often grabs me, but now that I can think of it as one of my whiny kids in the back seat (not now, but there were LOTS of times), I can ignore it better.

By: Lisa Ann

Lisa Ann — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 19:25:37 +0000

Yes, I agree with so many others… the analogy of fear to unruly children you would never give car keys too is wonderful, and so personally helpful as I am currently facing some big fears of my own right now that have had the keys and been driving for far too long!!